Notice in the title of this blog I said PERSON. Because you have a diagnosis, doesn't make you that, you are a person first. So our Looly (Kate) has Down Syndrome. She isn't Down Syndrome, as my good friend Tim, pointed out to me at a bad time. My problem is, I don't see it, like others. When I am home with Looly, she is just my child, like the rest. When we are in public or with other children without disabilities, then I see it. Many times I don't like looking through others eyes at Looly. It was suggested to me how relieved some friends were that we are sending her to school. As if all along we weren't handling this right. The thing is, we had to realize that these people are clueless and most of the time Looly isn't even on their radar. They have busy lives and we are just a fleeting thought of "well I would have..." My good friend Amy said, don't look back with regret, you were doing God's plan and now is the time for change.